Character AI private messages โ how to stay in control
By FlirtAlly ยท October 8, 2026

Character AI private messages โ how to stay in control
Key Facts
- Character.ai has 20 million monthly active users according to research
- Replika's parent company was fined โฌ5 million for GDPR violations reports show
- California's SB 243 allows $1,000+ per data violation effective 2026
- The FTC launched an AI chatbot inquiry in September 2025 reports indicate
- Stanford's Jennifer King warns AI chats may lead to targeted ads research highlights
- ACLU warns AI integration risks end-to-end encryption according to analysis
Risks of Sharing in AI Companions
Your AI companion knows things you'd never tell a stranger โ your fears, your relationships, your 2 a.m. confessions. The question is who else ends up knowing them.
Character.ai's scale makes this urgent: the platform has roughly 20 million monthly active users, each generating intimate conversation data around the clock. When that much sensitive material sits on company servers, the stakes of any security failure are enormous.
The risks aren't hypothetical. Documented breach timelines across the AI companion industry show that user conversations can and do leak โ which is why security writers consistently advise treating every chat as potentially leakable and never sharing identifying details with a bot.
Transparency is the other half of the problem. Privacy analysts note that AI companion apps often fail to clearly explain what data they collect, how long they store it, and who it's shared with. Regulators have started pushing back: Replika's parent company, Luka, was fined โฌ5 million by the Italian data protection authority in 2025 for GDPR violations, and California's SB 243 โ effective January 2026 โ now requires AI companion apps to disclose their data practices, with users able to sue for $1,000 or more per violation.
The technical architecture adds another layer of concern. According to the ACLU, integrating AI into secure messaging can compromise end-to-end encryption, exposing data to potential leaks that users assumed were impossible. And Jennifer King of the Stanford Institute for Human-Centered AI warns that sharing sensitive information with chatbots may lead to unintended consequences, including targeted advertising or data sharing with third parties.
So what can you actually control? A few habits go a long way:
- Treat every chat as potentially leakable โ assume a breach is possible before you type.
- Never share identifying information: real names, addresses, workplaces, or financial details.
- Use a unique email for companion apps so a breach can't cascade into your other accounts.
- Read the privacy policy before getting attached โ look for data retention and sharing terms.
Regulatory attention is growing โ the FTC launched an inquiry into AI chatbots acting as companions in September 2025 โ but rules take time. In the meantime, the burden of caution sits with you.
It's a burden platforms should share. That's why FlirtAlly builds its companion experience around user control โ with in-app reporting, hard-coded prohibited categories, and honest limits rather than "unrestricted" promises โ so staying in control isn't something you have to do alone.
Transparency and User Control
A privacy policy nobody reads is not consent โ it's a shrug. As AI companion apps grow, the gap between what platforms collect and what users understand keeps widening, and regulators are starting to close it.
The stakes are real. Replika's parent company, Luka, was fined โฌ5 million by the Italian data protection authority in 2025 for GDPR violations, according to a review of AI companion privacy risks. That fine sent a clear message: vague data practices now carry consequences, not just criticism.
Legislation is catching up too. California SB 243, effective January 2026, requires AI companion apps to disclose their data practices and gives users a private right of action to sue for $1,000 or more per violation. Transparency is no longer a courtesy โ it's a legal obligation.
So what does genuine transparency look like? At minimum, users deserve plain-language answers to three questions: what data is collected, where it goes, and whether it trains the models. Jennifer King of the Stanford Institute for Human-Centered AI warns that sharing sensitive information with chatbots can lead to unintended consequences like targeted advertising or third-party data sharing โ outcomes most users never knowingly agreed to.
Clear opt-out mechanisms matter just as much. Users who don't want their conversations used for AI training should be able to say no through an accessible, one-step control, not a buried settings menu. That's the standard the FTC has signaled it expects, having launched an inquiry into AI chatbots acting as companions in September 2025.
For users evaluating any platform, a few checks separate the transparent from the evasive:
- Does the privacy policy state plainly what is logged, stored, and shared โ without legalese buried on page nine?
- Is there a real opt-out for training use, reachable in a couple of clicks?
- Can you delete conversations and account data on demand?
- Does the app disclose monitoring or review of private chats up front?