• Free: 7-day memory window
• Spark ($9.99/mo): 30-day memory
• Flame ($19.99/mo): 90-day memory
• Exclusive and VIP: unlimited memory

This directly answers the "irreversibility and persistence" concern researchers flagged — the fear that intimate, diary-like disclosures live on servers forever. Data lifespan here is a visible, user-controlled choice rather than buried policy text. Given that legal requests for AI chat logs are becoming increasingly frequent — the New York Times lawsuit alone sought over 20 million private ChatGPT conversations — shorter retention windows are a genuine privacy feature, not a limitation.

Honest content boundaries. The default experience is PG/Flirt. The 18+ "Spicy" tier is opt-in, gated behind ID-based age verification and a qualifying plan (Flame and above). Italy's data protection authority fined Replika partly over age-verification failures, so this gate isn't decoration. Hard-coded prohibited categories, media scene screening, and in-app reporting round out the safety model — FlirtAlly openly states it is not an "unrestricted" app.

What FlirtAlly does not do is make encryption architecture claims it can't verify. That's deliberate. Cryptographer Matthew Green has explained why AI processing structurally conflicts with end-to-end encryption — a companion that remembers you must, by definition, process your words on a server. Splunk's security analysts put it bluntly: when a message goes to an external server for AI processing, "a new, unintended entity is reading your content," and they recommend platforms tell users exactly what data is processed and where.

So instead of vague "military-grade privacy" slogans, you get concrete, checkable behaviors: anonymous guest access, defined memory windows, verified age gates, and reporting tools. In a category where trust has been repeatedly broken, specifics beat promises.

What to Ask Before You Trust Any AI Companion Platform

The privacy conversation around AI companions usually starts with encryption — but research shows the real risks sit upstream, in how platforms handle identity, retention, and legal exposure. A study of 2,909 Reddit posts across 79 subreddits found that romantic AI users cluster their concerns around four lifecycle stages: disproportionate entry requirements, intensified sensitivity during intimate use, perceived surveillance from contradictory signals, and the near-impossibility of clean exit (academic analysis of romantic AI privacy). Meanwhile, mainstream chatbots still lack end-to-end encryption, and the New York Times' copyright lawsuit sought access to over 20 million private ChatGPT conversations (EDRi digital-rights investigation). Those numbers aren't abstract — they're the paper trail your conversations leave.

Before you trust any platform with diary-level disclosure, run it through this checklist:

• Does it require identity upfront, or can you start as a guest?
• What are the memory retention defaults — and can you change them?
• Is there an age-verified tier for adult content, or is everything mixed together?
• How does the platform handle legal requests for chat logs?
• Can you delete conversations and exit cleanly without jumping through hoops?

FlirtAlly answers each question in the product itself: no account needed to start, tiered memory windows (7, 30, 90, or unlimited days by plan) that make data lifespan a visible choice, a separate "Spicy" tier that requires ID-based age verification and a qualifying plan, and an honest safety posture that admits AI processing means server-side access rather than promising encryption the architecture can't deliver. The industry's documented failures — Replika's regulatory fine, DeepSeek's exposed database, Meta AI's non-encrypted WhatsApp integration — make transparent defaults the only credible starting point (romantic AI privacy study; EDRi report on AI confidentiality failures).